Top tips for keeping friendships alive over at A Little Bird

Well if you’ve thought I’ve gone all AWOL on you all, well I kind of have. This self-nurturing business has seen me put the brakes on a bit to try and stop myself from feeling so overwhelmed. And it’s working, kind of. I have still been blogging though, I just haven’t been letting you all know about it!!

So, head over to A Little Bird Blogs to read my latest post on Top tips for keeping friendships alive. I feel blessed to have a small group of really special friends, but keeping them in my life has required alot more effort post-children. It’s been a bit of a work in progress really, so I’m attempting to share what’s worked for me. Go over and see how I’m keeping my friendships alive and let me know how you do to!

And while your there, you can read all my other recent posts I haven’t told you about as well as some other entertaining and thought provoking posts, like this post on switching off Facebook by my blogging nest buddy Ms CupoTea!

Looking forward to sharing some more exciting posts with you this week!

Belinda

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Motherhood words of wisdom


Wouldn’t this be nice? Do you think it’s possible, or am I having one of my hippy idealistic episodes (of which I have many!). I don’t think any of us are immune from getting a visit from Judgey McJudgey occasionally, but I actively try not to indulge him when he comes a knocking.

Afterall, we don’t know what is happening in other people’s lives. Behind their closed doors. Inside their minds. The things they struggle with. Where they’ve been. I remind myself of that constantly, that things are not always what they seem.

I think the celebration starts with being honest, really honest. With ourselves and with other mothers. Not just playing lip service to the parenting cliches.

Let’s own our parenting decisions, so if someone does try to judge them they won’t get very far. And if we struggle to own them, let’s find the strength to ask ourselves why so we can try and fix what doesn’t feel right.

There is no right way to parent, we all find our own way through by loving and nurturing and doing what feels right to us.

I am still finding my way. I’m a work in motherhood progress, yet aren’t we all?

How are you progressing? What words of wisdom have helped you on your parenting journey?

Finding the fun

When we moved into our home almost a year ago, among the bits and bobs left to us by the previous owners, among the paint can of exterior colour, spare keys to the french doors and excess smoke alarms, was a pack of unopened pregnancy oracle cards.

I often mused about why they were left to me – unused gift or a need sensed? I guess I’ll never know, but last week I remembered the gift and busted them out and they have so far provided a comfort to me as I connect with this little baby growing inside me.

With the boy asleep, I settled in for a three card reading and drew the cards above. They made sense to me on a variety of levels.

This year has been a testing time emotionally for me – for reasons I don’t quite understand or can explain easily. I’ve just felt off kilter, separated from my essense, sick in spirit. I’ve been hiding somewhere in the day to day necessities, cutting myself off from those special to me outside my immediate home zone.

So this one little line hit home and made me take a good look at how I’ve been doing things:

“Everything can be fun. See the light and joy in everything you do today.”

My light had felt extinguished and joy was something far too fleeting these days.

So, since the reading I’ve been embarking on a change. Instead of only tackling the essential day-to-day tasks, I stop and think how I can inject some fun into them. A shopping trip is accompanied by a milk shake with the boy. Hanging out the washing incorporates a peg game with my little helper and when watering the garden I leave time to let him splash around in his blow-up pool.

I’m trying to slow down, live in the moment instead of escaping it and use my time more effectively so there is some time for me to ‘just be’.

How about you? How do you inject joyfulness and fun into your day-to-day life?