If you’ve been following along for the last month, I’ve covered the topic of stressing less from a number of angles and it’s made me realise a couple of key things – that stress will always be a part of life, but there are ways to stress less about the things that we can’t control.
While writing about stress, the universe decided to chuck a few unexpected things my way: my son was diagnosed with Global Developmental Delay and we had to rethink his therapies, which has been stressful from a time and money standpoint, and it threw a big stressful question mark over the future and more specifically our plan of attack for starting prep next year. Also, last week my mum got quite sick unexpectedly and I had to race down to see her in hospital, all the while stressing that the worst could happen. Thankfully she is now on the mend, but if those two major experiences have taught me anything is that yes, truly stressful events do occur – often unexpectedly – and in many ways they actually can bring your life into greater focus if you let them. They give you a jolt of action towards the things that really matter and those little things that we tend to stress about that never amount to anything just tend to slide away.
By starting my stress less action plan, specifically around my stress about Jarvis’s diagnosis, I am happy to report we’re making headway with his new therapies and after visiting some schools, we’re still going ahead towards Prep next year, unless something major pops up to persuade us otherwise. His little gains make me proud every day and I know that whatever the future holds, he’s going to be OK. I’ve got a new budget in action and although the intense therapies are costing us a bit, and there’s very little left after all the bills are paid, I’m no longer stressing so much about this as I know that we can cover all our expenses and that this money is going towards something so completely worthwhile.
I’ve also added a daily meditation practice into my life as a ongoing stress less measure – I find by doing a guided meditation every day I am more able to cope with what life decides to throw at me, without completely losing my sanity. It’s also my little piece of me time that I crave after the busyness of the day.
The other unexpected side-effect of writing about stress for the past month is that it’s helped me to reflect on the stresses that the motherhood journey has thrown up thus far and helped me be a little bit kinder to myself, rather than always kicking myself when I’m down. I feel somehow lighter – I don’t have to do it all, just do the things that matter with great love.
This topic has become really dear to my heart as I really want to help you find some peace in your life as a mother, so expect a bit more on this topic as the months roll by!
I would love to hear how you’re going on your journey to stress less … What things are helping you? What are you still struggling with?