Could a Groupon save a marriage?

In the midst of all the turmoil of late last year, an email hit my inbox about Groupon. I’ve checked out various coupon sites over the past couple of years but have often baulked at buying them. Are they a case of too good to be true? Will I get a booking when I want? Should I just stick with going somewhere I know?

But at that moment I knew we needed a night out, we needed a new experience to try together and get us talking, so I said I’d love to try it out. I was given a $49 credit and although there was a massage deal that looked very tempting, as I flicked through Brisbane restaurant deals there was an offer for a Japanese Degustation for two at Zuri, including wine, for (you guessed it!) $49. It sounded exactly like what we needed. It was an easy process to purchase the offer and a coupon was rapidly sent to my inbox. I booked the next day and had no trouble booking for our desired date and time. Continue reading

Monday Meditation #3

I love this as a reminder of where to send your energy. I know I’ve been guilty of sending alot of energy towards critical people in the past to try and make them less critical of me I guess. But all that happens is they then get critical of whatever effort I make as well, which tends to make me feel angry and disheartened. I am lucky not to have too many people like this in my life but unfortunately they often have the loudest voices and the longest effect on me.

Having said that, I am fortunate to have some absolutely awesome people in my life, who inspire, uplift and leave me in awe of their ambition, achievements and attitude. These are the people I want to impress and hopefully leave the same positive effect on their life too.

Have a happy week connecting to your own special peeps!

Standing up and starting over

 

{This post has been sitting in my draft folder for a couple of weeks now. I read it now two weeks on and I feel proud of my words and I now feel strong enough to stand behind them. So with a deep breathe, I send them out into the ether … maybe someone out there can relate.}

 

I started this as a 2012 wrap up post, but my fingers stalled at the keys trying to find the words that summed up this year in all its glorious perfect imperfection. I sit here now watching my Hugo trying to stand. He grunts with effort as he gets his balance on his little, chubby baby legs. He’s not yet 9 months old and there he is so determined and every day he’s getting stronger. I look at him now and the light bulb goes off. That’s what I’m doing too.

About a month ago I found out something that knocked the wind right out of me. My husband was thinking of leaving me. I won’t go into the whole sorry, mess of events as the whole month has been a series of gradually emerging secrets, of highs and lows, of doubts and accusations, of finding that my gut was never far from wrong. I found out things I never wanted to contemplate and asked myself questions I didn’t yet know the answers to. He had a younger, female confidant that he thought he’d fallen for and she was showing signs of interest too. I felt unfairly treated, of being compared to someone younger, more carefree, without a toddler and a baby to take care of. I felt my life was being eyed off and gatecrashed, by someone who had no idea about the truths of my life and who my husband was ready to give up on us for. There was no physical infidelity but it was emotional damage that can’t easily be undone.

But in dealing with its fall out I found myself start to stand up, to pull at truths sticking up around me and gingerly place my feet on the ground, pushing up on shaky legs, sending my aching stomach, heart and confused muddle of a head sky-ward. I didn’t believe things had run its course here. We had been unhappy in a quietly, resentful kind of way. I kept telling myself it would get better. Afterall I had just given birth to a human mere months ago. Our home had become a pressure cooker. A bubbling goulash of work, household duties, child wrangling, appointments and engagements. Of quiet despair. Of things left unsaid.

So here I am a day into the new year and I’m standing. Some days I’m still shaky and my mind threatens to betray me and send me toppling, but I am still standing. Mr P is standing too. He feels ripped up and remorseful. I know that to be true. We are talking better than we have for years. We are trying to have fun again. Little tiny baby steps. As we reconnect we wonder how we let things get this far. The quiet, simmering unhappiness, that nearly tore our family apart.

There is still a long way to go, but I believe we are in this together now – instead of each heading off to our individual caves of contemplation. The pressure cooker is turned down right now, but it’s what we do when it starts to heat up again that will make the difference. Our actions will define our strength. We’ve resolved not to do this alone but seek help with the issues we each have.

We both need to keep standing up, without fear, for this to work. To redefine and accept ourselves and each other in all our perfect imperfection. I look at my youngest boy, all esctatic grin standing up on his chubby baby legs, taking wobbly first steps as he holds onto the furniture and I know that it can be done. I just have to keep believing.

It feels a bit weird blogging about this when many of our family and friends don’t yet know about this, however I felt I could either bolt this issue behind the closed doors of our seemingly happy home or I can stand here behind my words and say sometimes marriages suck and hard times find us. It’s what we choose to do next that matters.

Monday Meditation #2

I love this quote as it sums up what I’m wanting to achive with #SMSyogaaday.

It’s easy to sink into a rut and start to feel down when faced with life’s pressures. I am an introvert by nature which means I need some alone time each day to recharge and reenergise and I sometimes feel that quietly going about my work can be misjudged and misunderstood. I don’t stand out in a crowd but I am passionate about doing my best at all things. For all these reasons and more, these words really speak to me.

Wishing you all a shiny week xxx

Thirteen days of yoga

Well it’s probably time to give a bit of an update on how my Yoga a Day challenge is going. Well, firstly I’m proud to announce that I have indeed been successful in doing Yoga in some form every day, despite visitors and toy related clutter (see above!) and secondly I am really, really loving it!

I should point out for those following at home that I’m definitely no Yoga guru and I’m starting from a fairly beginners level. I’m not that flexible and I struggle with keeping my thinking from straying onto various topics, but that’s the very reason why I’m taking on this challenge. Yoga can be seen as a formidable pursuit – all headstands and twisting yourself into knots. But its all a process. Of letting your body settle into the space where it feels comfortable and gently pushing that little bit further as you go along. I like the idea of quietly challenging myself and this body of mine and I’m open to where this year will take me. Continue reading

Product Talk by Nuffnang: An outdoor Brisbane Christmas without flies

*This is a Product Talk by Nuffnang post

So, I may have mentioned pre-Christmas that we were hosting Christmas at our place for the first time ever. After years of making the pilgrimage either north or south to visit either of our parents we decided to stay in Brisbane and have our own little Christmas. The plan was to cook a roast in the Weber and have a relaxed outdoors dining experience with a mix of hot and cold and some yummy summer desserts.

For the last couple of months, we’ve been barbecuing up a storm but with every whiff of meaty goodness we were harassed by a large legion of flies. And when the sun went down we often had to head inside to avoid the mosquitoes nipping at our feet. So, in the lead up to Christmas we started to discuss our options to keeping the pesky insects at bay. Mosquito coils and cintronella had become a bit of a hazard with young children around, so when I got the chance to try out the Mortein NaturGard Automatic Outdoor Insect Control System it was a spot of good timing. Continue reading