There are many well-meaning people in this world. You don’t have to look very far to see people lending a hand to others and this surely does warm my heart. But what of those well-meaning people whose gestures, although a meant with the best of intent, somehow miss the intended mark of helpfulness.
I was on the receiving end of one such gesture today. I was pushing my umbrella style stroller up a ramp about to mount an escalator with three plastic bags of groceries hanging from the handles. The whole precarious set up was threatening to tip, so I was gingerly pushing and applying all my concentration to successfully mounting the upcoming escalator.
A voice from behind me, I missed it first time as my thoughts were preoccupied so I replied ‘sorry?’ and the voice, now attached to a young female who I have turned to face repeats ‘Excuse me, your cardigan is inside out’. ‘Oh… um … thank you,’ I reply as I look at my gypsy caravan set up and wonder inanely what I am supposed to do with this information at that moment. I get a bit flustered, and let a lady who is coming up behind me pass in front as I regain the composure to walk on, my inside-out cardigan insitu.
The lady passing me then says loudly, in an upbeat voice ‘That’s the last thing you’ve got to worry about right now, isn’t love?’ Amen, cool Grandma type. It is!
I know the inside-out girl meant me well, she had a smile on her face, but in my harried ‘let’s get this stuff back to the car without stacking it’ state it was the last thing I really wanted to hear. I would have preferred wearing my inside out cardigan home where I probably would have pulled it off, perhaps not even realising it was inside out or if I did I would have laughed at my own stupidity and wondered if I was caught out.
So, my conclusion is the dispensing of this information should be situational. If the person is otherwise busy/engaged/about to tip over child and groceries just let them be! Otherwise if you can get a quiet, private word in without anyone else hearing, go for it.
Agree? Do you usually inform people of their inside out/tag dag status? Or do you leave them in a state of ignorant bliss?